It's January 10th and still no word from the Navy. The waiting game is the worst! Did he get in? Did he not get in? For those of you who do not know, my husband was going to apply to the National Guard. Then, we decided the full time route through the Army might be a better option for us. After going to MEPS (Military Entrance Processing Station) he discovered 3 things. #1, his hearing wasn't up to par. I could have told him that, lol. Or maybe....
... he just doesn't like to listen to me. #2, his eyes were not up to par. Well, he's had glasses since elementary school so no surprise there either. And #3, we were surprised to find out that he had a little heart issue. Those three things technically disqualified him from the military. But, Uncle Sam is pro second chances. So, my husband went the waiver route. Denied. We thought that was the end and started applying to jobs near our new home. But, a few days later his recruiter called and said that the Navy might be interested in him. Whenever you get denied through a waiver, it's not the end, you can still apply at different military branches. So, that's where we are now. There are pro's and con's to getting the call that he got in or that he got denied.
Pro's to getting in.... It will help him pay off a lot of his student loans. We would get to travel around, see new places that we probably wouldn't have seen. We would be financially stable.
Con's to getting in.... We would have to move away from family and friends. We would have to be on call to deployment at any moment and miss each other for a LONG time. We would be married to the military life for years with all that goes along with it.
Pro's to NOT getting in.... We would have more control of everyday decisions. Where to work, where to live, how to live, to shave or not to shave. I do like his facial hair :) We would see him ALL year round. No missed birthdays or Anniversaries. No missed months of his kid's lives. And we would still be able to live by family. Family is important to us.
Con's to NOT getting in.... Bye, Bye, travel that's paid for. Bye, Bye, student loan repayment. Bye, Bye, a job that he can hold his head high and be proud of.
So you see, the pros/cons to each outcome make it hard when it comes to the waiting game. I am not a very patient person, so that makes it harder. I'm a planner. I might have had one or two weak moments, an emotional roller coaster ride. Okay, maybe three or four. You might be thinking, oh this is nothing, you just wait. Well, I'm thinking that too. But, I feel like if I embrace the fact that nothing is going to go as planned, and in an orderly and timely fashion, that I'll be fine. I'll get used to it. I might even come to enjoy the spontaneity, who knows. I can picture my life as a Navy wife or as a civilian. I'm happy with either at this point. Bring on the phone call to let me know which one to embrace. That's all I ask.
MANY ARE THE PLANS IN A MAN'S HEART, BUT IT IS THE LORD'S PURPOSE THAT PREVAILS.